GET NEW FRIENDS!!
To some, that may sound silly. I'm not saying go out and kick your best friend to the curb because he or she doesn't need to lose weight and you do. Oh first of all, that's a quote from my fave - Chalene Johnson. But what I am saying is this... if you have goals such as eating healthy, working out, giving up alcohol, quitting smoking, etc...then hanging out with people who don't care about their health and want to go to the next steak house, share a family sized plate of lasagna, and a bottle of wine every time you want to hang out, may not be the best idea.
The first time I heard that quote I thought "Well that's kind of mean...you can't just kick your friends to the curb".....then I realized something. As you change, so do the people around you. As you strive to be better, so do your friends. And the ones who don't find that same motivation, tend to drift off anyway. I can't count the number of friends that I have that have traded in their old habits for new and improved healthy habits because they were motivated by me to do so. There are people that I have been acquaintances with or friends at a distance that now, I can call close friends because we find ourselves with the same passions. As well as, every single new friend that I have made in the past year and a half has health related goals.
My boyfriend's sister for example. We have always been cool...you could have called us friends in the past. She actually introduced me to her brother, the love of my life. But even though we were "friends" we didn't have too much in common so it was kinda like because I was dating her brother we remained friends but at a distance. But NOW ....she is one of my best friends. We both found a love for health and fitness, we started working out together, we exchange recipes, and in 2012 we both have the same New Year's Resolution - aka having similar goals and we talk every single day. She is one of my biggest supporters, and I am hers. We push each other to another level and I am so thankful to have someone like her in my life.
|we hang out...|
|We work out.|
I was at the gym last night and ran into someone who used to be my best friend in school...I mean best best best, couldn't separate us for nothing, one year for Halloween we were even a Siamese cactus (don't judge us) but as we got older, we went our separate ways because our goals and hobbies changed. Now that we are older we still talk on occasion but running into her at the gym last night was a cool experience. We were back to having things in common and having things we wanted to do together. I spur of the moment took a class with her and now she's coming to a class with me (and Tamara!) on Saturday.
I could go on and on. My last example is my hunni. As we got in bed last night after we had spent time at the gym together, I said to him "I'm so happy that we have similar goals. I would think it would be pretty hard for me if I had to keep Doritos in the house for you or if one of us wanted to go to the gym and the other one didn't....we would never see each other. I'm glad that we can spend quality time working out together and have conversations about health and wellness. " I wish this for everyone. No matter what your goals are, I hope that your spouse is on the same level as you. It really makes accomplishing your goals that much easier!!
The bottom line is this: Don't be afraid to rekindle old friendships. Don't be afraid to say "no" to hanging out with someone who may hinder your weight loss journey. Don't be afraid to play people at a distance if they are not an asset to your life at this point. Sometimes just because you have been friends with someone all your life, doesn't mean you can't make new friends that will aid in your journey.
I am realizing that all of the people I talk to on a day to day basis are health nuts like myself and I wouldn't have it any other way!! Talking about health and fitness on a regular basis keeps my goals in the forefront of my mind at all times.
This is not a journey you can take alone! That's for darn sure.
*Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other's gold* ......LOL shhh I was a Girl Scout.
Love and hugs.