"It took me a year to lose the weight physically and 10 years to lose it mentally" - an old WW leader
My mom told me that quote from her former Weight Watchers leader and it rings so true for so many! I have people ask me all the time "How do you see yourself differently? I still look in the mirror and see 'a fat person' . I just can't get my mind to catch up with my body"
That is a sad truth for so many of us who have lost a lot of weight. While most days, I am able to look in the mirror and see the hard work that I have put in, there are still some days when I don't and the "Picking apart" that I do now is worse than when I was overweight. THANKFULLY, I talk to enough people about this issue all the time and I am conscious enough to realize I am doing what I'm doing and stop the behavior but it's not always easy.
The mind can be your own worst enemy or your own best friend.
Example: This morning I woke up and I felt fine....then I started thinking about if I worked out yesterday (Answer: No) , the day before? No. Day before that? Nope. And all of a sudden my mind started changing....my mind decided that I shouldn't feel "Fine"...I should feel bad about myself... I must be on a downward spiral if I am okay with missing 3 days of workouts and eating pizza and wings...I must have given up....I'm gonna gain my weight back.
^ This is not ME thinking this....this is my messed up mind that still has "Old Krystle tendencies" to think I am not worthy enough...I'm not doing enough....being enough....
Thankfully, I was able to snap out of this mindset rather quickly because I have PRACTICED doing so. My positive, conscious mind was able to jump in there and *scccreeeeeeecchhh* stop those negative thoughts by replacing them with positive ones. --"You woke up in your bed this morning, you have had a rough week, you worked out 6 days the past 4 weeks....stop worrying about a couple missed days....you're beautiful and strong and a couple "off days" doesn't change that...stop being critical and just love yourself!"
The point is that I am not perfect.
The point is that this journey doesn't end when you reach goal and everything is peachy.
The point is that the physical part is easy. It's the mental part that is the challenge.
The point is that we have to be kind to ourselves!!
I was talking to my friend, Nicole, the other day and we were discussing how when couples go to theapy because they "Fell out of love", often the assignment is to pretend that they are in love and do things as if they were still in love and before you know it, that couple has fallen back in love with each other. In essence - FAKE IT 'TILL YOU MAKE IT.
The same goes for the "bad days" we all have....and we ALL have bad days.... if you don't have bad days, I would love to know your secret. But we can't let those bad days or moments define us. We have to step in there with are positive, conscious, loving minds and knock those negative thoughts out of the park.
This next statement is completely robbed from Nicole but the next time you are with a group of women who start talking about everything they don't like about themselves, start talking about what you DO like about yourself AND...what you like about your friends. Change the tone. Be the leader. It's practice for the days you will need that extra boost and nobody is around except YOU.